Should i keep fighting for my ex

If you have kids with your ex, the worst case scenario is when you start arguing or fighting over your kids. Once a separation turns into a divorce and custody battles come into play it can become very difficult to control the negativity and find a common ground.

You must quickly detach yourself from the disagreements that you may have had as a couple and look to engage with your partner in a spirit of compromise , not to make them happy and to give into their desires, but rather for the well-being of your children. Take the high road and make concessions in good faith and when appropriate in order to snap out of the spirit of conflict and to find a common ground on important issues.

In order to stop being frustrated with your ex and their behavior, shift your focus on what you can control. Your actions and your well-being are in reality not directly linked to your ex. Many people feel that they need to get back with their ex in order to be happy, fulfilled or to snap out of depression.

But on the contrary, if you are hoping to get back with your ex permanently you must first find a healthy balance within and regain a sense of peace and happiness before getting back together. Take the time to really think about where you are in life and all that used to bring you happiness independently of your relationship before things unraveled. You can find joy in many things: through friends, families, hobbies or even your career. The most important is that you disconnect from your relationship in order to get back to who you truly are.

People have the tendency to lose themselves in their relationship, which causes them to feel disconnected from their true essence. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and hopes to have her first novel out soon. By Amanda Chatel. By Sarah Burke. By Kate Ferguson. By Lyndsie Robinson. By Averi Clements.

By Amy Horton. Search Search for:. About Contact Privacy Policy. Facebook Instagram Pinterest. It is like asking for reinforcement from them to help you get back together. However, if your ex gets mad knowing about it, then it is a sign you need to stop. Having someone who would patiently listen to your whines and cries even if you are only talking about the same thing is therapeutic.

At this point, you need less advice. What you need is a listening ear so you can express your feelings without judgment. Find a family member or friend whom you can trust and who understands what you are going through. I know you want to forget the pain as soon as possible, but it does not happen that way. Be patient with yourself. The more you try to move on faster, the harder it gets. You cannot force a wound to heal fast, right?

The moment you think it has healed because it already dried up and you peel its skin, blood comes out again. Depression is a common effect of heartbreak—and you probably know how it can be devastating. To avoid getting depressed or to overcome it, always surround yourself with people. If you are staying in your own place alone, find a friend to stay with you for a while, or if possible, go home to your family.

They will surely understand. I have been repeating this in my other blogs—you should engage in physical activities. Do regular exercise or find a sport you can enjoy. Aside from the enjoyment, which helps you forget about your pain for the moment, it will help your body release endorphin—a pain reliever hormone. Your ex is not the only person you love. You still have your family and friends. Just direct your effort and care to these people. They are the ones who stay with you at this hard time, so they deserve to be treated special.

Spend time with them, especially your family. Aside from your family and friends, you, yourself, deserve your love as well. Instead of thinking you are unlovable because your ex left you, be the first one to encourage yourself.

Eat healthily, get enough sleep, and avoid stress so that you will stay fit. If i do contact him after no contact or the latter, how do i ensure i stay out of the friendzone?

Hi J, so yes post things to social media showing you are doing well and socialising for now. Wait until the end of your No Contact before you post anything that may hint that there is a date or a guy in your life.

If you follow the program properly you will see great results for your lifestyle and your ex will notice them too, and if you do it right it can give you, your best chance at getting him back too. Hi chris, my ex broke up with me a week ago after a fight I showed up drunk at his house and literally broke his door. He texted me next day saying that it was over and not to try to contact him or fix things, it was a mistake.

Before that fight things were amazing no fights and we were together for about 6 months and years ago we used to date. He blocked me on phone, whatsup, personal IG but not his business one. Do you think I have a chance? Hi Julia so you need to do a full 45 days no contact and do some work on yourself, while your relationship was short your break up was quite extreme. You need to give him time to get over the negative feelings he is feeling towards you right now.

So follow the process and do some work on the holy trinity. Heey, so my ex broke up with me about a week ago because I lied to him and it was a big lie. Now his trust is broken, during the relationship he mentioned a couple of times that honesty is very important to him. A couple of days before the breakup he told me he really fell hard for me, that he will never find someone better and that I complete him. We have planned to see eachother in about a month to discuss everything.

How can I change his mind about ending the relationship? Hi Marie…. Have you picked up my eBook which covers all of this to ensure you are implementing NC correctly and all the rest?

So basically me and my ex broke up a week ago now, we were together for 4 years. The first year was good, we had so much in common and he was so kind and sweet. So being with him was refreshing. But unfortunately about 10 months in we were on a night out and he ended up hitting my friends boyfriends friend, and although it was just a drink fuelled mistake and totally out of character it turned out he broke this guys jaw and the following year we ended up in a court case and he went to prison for a year and a half.

I supported him through it all as did many other people, I know he made a terrible mistake. So after he was released he came to live with me as he had an tag on for the next 4 months so he could only leave the house between 7am-7pm. But it seemed whatever we did or wherever we went he seemed dissatisfied, but looking back I wonder if that was my own insecurity. Nothing physical happened between them but was telling her he was going to leave me and they spoke a lot.

So my fault or not, after that I got even more insecure. Anyway so he keeps pulling away from me and eventually he tried to break up with me, I pleaded with him and then he said he needed space.

It ended relatively calmly and he said he still loved me as a person and wanted to be friends but we needed to leave it for a week or so to heal. After a day?! And proceeds to stand there texting another girl right in front of me. I cried a lot and after he left I sent him a message saying how it was insensitive and he should have understood my upset.

He said he wanted to leave it a few days but I said I wanted it out now. So he came over again and I got upset again and asked him if there was any hope, I also asked him if there was someone else and we ended up snapping at eachother again. I apologised again and he said he understood how hard it was, but again to give it time, he rang me too and told me it was gonna be okay.

It gets worse. I was convinced there was someone else, so a day or so after I basically went crazy on the phone and he admitted there was someone else, but he was just speaking to them, nothing serious.

I was convinced it was a girl at work and I went round to his and asked about it, he got even more annoyed and told me to leave. I reaaaaally regretted it afterwards. I then told him to block me on everything because it was too hard, he did but left me unblocked on Instagram, and still follows me.

After some thought I told him I was gonna let him move on and I was sorry for acting like a psycho. It gave me a tiny bit of hope he was still thinking of me. Have I ruined it?

Sorry for the enormous message. My question is why would he say he is going to therapy to fix his problems? Hello, I reached out to my ex and found out he is in a relationship. I am thinking its a rebound because he told me to add him back on social media and agrees to hang out.

During one of our hangouts i asked him if he loves her and his initial reaction was no, then he said yes.